Mr. PiN is nearing the completion of a project which has taken almost all of his attention for many months.
I have tried to support him, but somehow find that these last few weeks (especially the last 7 days) have been incredibly difficult for me.
Suddenly, all the sacrifices we have made are overshadowed by urgent tasks that keep popping up at our home, some of which I truly can’t take care of on my own.
Mr. PiN has taken care of a few issues at home, including dealing with the air conditioning which failed during some very hot summer days. But mostly I have been trying to either take care of other issues on my own, or assure myself that we can wait to deal with these other problems until he is finally free.
I have a hard time understanding why I, well-versed in delayed gratification, am having such a hard time near the end of a large project.
And yet, I don’t think I am alone.
The number of clichés about this subject: stay strong! Hold the course! PMental toughness! leads me to believe that holding on until the bitter end is really a difficulty for most humans.
A little internet research brings up issues more related to the person doing the project: getting bored now the project isn’t new, perfectionism, the fear that your work on the project won’t be good enough.
However, I’m doing very little on the project. Mostly, I’m just practicing patience as Mr. PiN’s energy is focused outside the home.
To be honest, I am thinking about latchkey incontinence, a subset of urge (urinary) incontinence. Basically, your brain suppresses the urge to go, until you reach home. Then, when your brain knows that you’re in a place where you can go, the suppression lifts; unfortunately, it’s a few minutes too early.
This post is really a reminder to myself to hold strong, and not piss away all the hard work I’ve done encouraging Mr. PiN.
However, if anyone feels like offering words of encouragement, they would be very welcome this week.
Projects are always fun to start but the last 10 percent are just painful. If you figure out why they are fun at the start only let me know
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At the start most good projects, everything is new and full of potential. At the end, not so much–the project I’m thinking of, we have to actively suppress the urge to add anything new, because things just need to be *done.*. Which takes a lot of the creativity and fun away.